Kyle Martin Chandler (born September 17, 1965) is an American actor. The Hollywood Reporter is a part of Penske Media Corporation. The young actor is in his 30s now, and he is doing big things with his life. by Brandon Kyle Goodman. His husband Matthew has appeared on hisbrandonkylegoodman Instagram account. Shady. And you said that that - dating white guys for proximity to white privilege - it only fed into your self-hatred. Brandon Kyle Goodman is an actor, writer and activist who currently writes and stars in the Netflix animated series "Big Mouth" and its spinoff, "Human Resources." Modern Love can be . A post shared by Brandon Kyle Goodman (@brandonkylegoodman). He had golden brown skin, and though his marathon runners body rendered him smaller than most of the men I was related to, he was strong. From the time my brain was able to hold memories, my Uncle Ronnie was there. I belonged to him before we ever met. Goodman who lives in Los Angeles with their husband, Matthew spoke to The Hollywood Reporter about the genesis of the book, what were the most challenging personal stories to tell and how they see the current state of inclusion and equity in Hollywood. That means so much. Brandon Kyle Goodman may be best known for his hit Netflix series Big Mouth, but the actor, writer, and activist has many talents in his arsenal. And my hope is that these white men will fill that void. Thank you so much for sharing this time with us, Brandon. They grew up in a religious immigrant household, and they know all too well what it's like to hide, to hide the most meaningful parts of yourself. BRANDON KYLE GOODMAN (he/they) is an actor, writer, and activist. MAINSTREAM NEWS MEDIA EXTRACTS: I . Her Confidence Gave Me Wings. NPR's Ailsa Chang chats with Brandon Kyle Goodman about their new book You Gotta Be You: How to Embrace This Messy Life and Step Into Who You Really Are. Goodman prides on being gay. His co-stars include Randall Park, Keke Palmer and Aidy Bryant. How would you rate this article? To me, its resilience versus healing. Goodman has graced the screen in projects like Feel The Beat and Amazons rom-com anthology series Modern Love, and he recently signed on to the star-studded Big Mouth spin-off, Human Resources. I may not have resembled Uncle Ronnie physically my skin darker, my face rounder, my frame bigger but there are few words I love more than fabulous and honey. Few things I love more than art and furniture. Brandon Kyle Goodman they/he BKG/Black/Gay / Non-binary . And above all, it asks every person to consider this question - who would I be if society never got its hands on me? But make space for them to look different than you imagined! Brandon Kyle Goodman voices Walter the Lovebug on Netflix's "Human Resources." Big Mouth has quickly become one of the funniest comedies on Netflix. Brandon Kyle Goodman Freaked Out Sitting Behind Oprah At The Emmys November 8, 2022, 2:00 AM "I left my body!" Brandon Kyle Goodman dishes on his first trip to the Emmy Awards, and. And if youre Black and queer, or youre living in the intersections, youll have language that articulates your experience because thats what I missed growing up language that articulated my experience.. You know, I think that as a kid, when you're, like, you know, 2, 3 and you're just playing, people kind of let you do whatever you want. GOODMAN: When Matthew and I met, I was already, like, fully in my love of Brandon. GOODMAN: Thank you so much. Brandon Kyle Goodman, an actor, writer and activist, near his home in Los Angeles. Matthew is a former teacher and advocate. Goodman is best known for his work in the movie. 2020 Brandon Kyle Goodman | All Rights Reserved. He has a keen on acting since youth. He is extensively known in the country for his project on #Black Lives Matter. I really appreciate it. I never wanted my mother or anyone in the book to come off as a villain because theyre not. CHANG: Well, I want to end on a pretty basic but important question. His character is Walter. His fans arent sure what to think of him outside of his voice and his role on television, but that doesnt mean they havent spent time trying to figure out who he is. He would scoop me up and take me to museums or the playground or the flea market, teaching me how to pick out quality art and furniture pieces. GOODMAN: Thank you so much. From the time were born, a litany of dos and donts are placed on us by our families, our communities, and society. And so there is a feeling that I felt personally inside of those white queer spaces where there is a performance that you're expected to do. As a Black nonbinary, queer person in a dark-skinned 61, 180-pound male body born into a religious immigrant household, Brandon knows the pain of having to hide ones true self, the work of learning to love that true self, and the freedom of finally being your true self. So in the show, you see how Latrell becomes somebody elses coping mechanism. I think we still see that Black people and Black queer folks specifically were valued when were entertaining. When hes not being a physical actor, hes working on being a voice actor. My therapist explained it best, which is when you have these moments of trauma and you revisit them to try and get the lesson, theres a retriggering that happens. He earned the net worth of $1 million USD from his acting career. Its about turning rejection (from others and yourself) into a roadmap to self-love. So there's this thing - right? Now, I was faced with the devastating reality that I did in fact have one and didnt treasure him. He wants to make sure its a positive situation. Tiffany and her husband are the proud parents of four children in her free time. As a person going out into the world, like, what do you value, and what do you want to stand for? February 1, 2022 10:15am. I have no interest in associating with people like that. I walked into Starbucks and continued my day. You share that early on, before you felt rejected for your race, before you felt rejected for your sexual orientation, you were rejected for your femininity and for not acting like a boy. And so the performance of queerness or all those isms really gets credited to white gay people. Goodman's. CHANG: Well, I want to end on a pretty basic but important question. That means so much. He never shares any information about the names of his parents and siblings with the media. NPR transcripts are created on a rush deadline by an NPR contractor. He encouraged it by laughing at my impressions of Cher. For Advertisement on our Site or to report a problem, kindly contact our team via email address. Brandon Kyle Goodman. Somehow, hearing I was like him was enough. I don't know. Compassionate and soulful, funny and revealing, You Gotta Be You is an unapologetic call to self-freedom. Or you see our fashion. At 25, I was working for a fitness company called Flywheel Sports. That's my hope. CHANG: Goodman has built up a huge following with these Messy Mondays, doling out some truths, some laughs and, most importantly, some love. All rights reserved. I would need to perform and be even more femme than I was. He talks about this from time to time online and when he is in interviews. And I thought that I could write an anti-racism book of some kind. But us being human and being flawed and being three dimensional, you know, there arent a lot of shows where we get to be inside of our joy, thats not for the white gaze but for us. He would be a compass that would point my life in the right direction and guide me effortlessly into Black manhood. Uncle Ronnie did the same. Goodman's book, "You Gotta Be You," is an ode to shaking off the expectations of others and tossing out the boxes that society nudges us all into. Goodman sparkles as the straightforwardly bold, strange Deco, Aprils neighbor, and emotionally supportive network while she alters coming back to her nations life. BRANDON KYLE GOODMAN: It's Monday, Messy Monday. So I had to put up a really hard boundary, which was that we dont talk really, here and there,but I dont really have a relationship with her. As a child I didnt understand the depths of what I was witnessing between him and my mother, but now, at 34, with my own best friends whom Ive known since college, I have a deep appreciation for how special their bond was. Feel the Beats lead actor Brandon Kyle Goodman is gay. And rightfully so his falling out was with my mother, not me. However, his work would turn into Big Mouth, where he is a voice actor. GOODMAN: Yeah. To me, its about building community. from the prestigious Tisch School of the Arts at NYU, utilizes his platform for good, constantly encouraging his followers to donate to organizations like The Innocence Project, The Bail Project, Black Trans Travel Fund and Black Lives Matter. Few places I love more than a bougie restaurant. And then you trick yourself into thinking that they are. With practical lessons, trenchant political critique, generosity, wit, and panache, Goodman is a lighthouse for those struggling to find themselves (read: everyone). And we get to hold multiple truths. Were all people, were all trying to figure [things] out. Big break: After graduating from the Tisch School of Arts at New York University in 2009, Mr. Goodman began writing a pilot about three queer friends in New York City in search of love called Sweet Boys, filled with poignant observations about modern romance drawn from his own journey. But based on my understanding of parental fights from those 90s TV shows, the child always picks a side. So I was latching on GOODMAN: To this thing of, like, I'm missing something. Goodman, an openly queer, nonbinary actor, is also a writer on Big Mouth, Nick Kroll and Andrew Goldberg's hilarious animated sitcom about the cringey awkwardness of puberty. Growing up, I didnt have a lot of people to look up to that were openly queer and Black and, non-binary, so I would latch on to certain people, he explains. The dark comedy explores how it is to be Black and queer in America by way of Jackson, a hilarious and opinionated talk show host. From the time we're born, a litany of do's and don'ts are placed on us by our families, our communities, and society. And so I want to fight to expand what the definition of free means for the next generation. People say, yas (ph), queen. You know, before we met, I was really, like, clear about how much I loved myself. Thank you. He was not the type to move on to Hollywood once he became an adult. Watch the TV series; sign up for the newsletter; or listen to the podcast on iTunes, Spotify or Google Play. Cool with it like he was into it or, like, cool with it like, [expletive] happens? And then, you know, when you start getting to that preschool, kindergarten age, then there starts to be these rules that I feel like get put on you. Download theGrio today! Tyler Reddick (179.683) qualified 15th. His mother is a homemaker. I get to say that I am non-binary and identify as such and not identify as a man. This book will have all of his thoughts on being a queer black man in this day and age, and it will be a book he hopes will resonate and educate. - where queerness exists in our zeitgeist. I would often teach 7 a.m., 8 a.m. and 9 a.m. classes, which meant, before my afternoon sessions, I would have what we instructors referred to as second breakfast too early for lunch, but still a full meal because I always ate before my classes and needed even more food after. Tell us what's wrong with this post? There was a very blood is thicker than water energy about my yearning a notion that my biological father and I would have an inexplicable bond that would heal all my wounds. People say, yas (ph), queen. There's a lot of gray. The cars of Custer, Berry, Sheldon Creed, Busch, Brandon Jones and Gray Gaulding will go to the rear for using backup . As a second grader, I had been embarrassed of not having a father. You Gotta Be You: How to Embrace This Messy Life and Step Into Who You Really Are is available now. In fact, so much of his own writing is focused. Si vous ne souhaitez pas que nos partenaires et nousmmes utilisions des cookies et vos donnes personnelles pour ces motifs supplmentaires, cliquez sur Refuser tout. Theres nothing he is not willing to discuss with those who are curious or want to learn. Can we just talk about dating white guys for a minute? He still manages to be my father. Like CHANG: So you say when you were younger, you never thought you could be as attractive as a white man. Feel the Beat is scheduled to debut on June 19, 2020, on Netflix Originals. There's a lot of gray. Like, you helped me think about something in my own life a little differently. He is proud of that degree, as he should be. Its very triggering, but I also think its telling because you cant deny that there is a shift happening and that people are really fighting back and really speaking up. Why we published an obscenity. And really, Matthew and I would always joke about people always saying, I want my other half. They grew up in a religious immigrant household, and they know all too well what it's like to hide, to hide the most meaningful parts of yourself. I hope this might be useful to anybody who's been chasing their dreams. Visit our website terms of use and permissions pages at www.npr.org for further information. :). During a recent episode of Acting Up, he discussed his activism and his engaging IG account where hes constantly serving up tons of inspiration and weighing in on everything from sex to race issues, to our ongoing fight for equality. For the moment. Goodman is a New Yorker. GOODMAN: Oh, my goodness. Anyone can read what you share. So how do you take care of yourself inside of that retrigger? Its going to be a book of essays, a collection, if you will. But my godfather always did. What do you think the state of things is in Hollywood right now as far as inclusion for queer people of color? The big-name reposts, Goodman proceeds to effectively take a stand in opposition to the shameful acts that have been tormenting the African American people group for a considerable length of time. But then you always realize that you're not like them GOODMAN: And that you're also - if you are approaching it from that angle where you're not whole and you're lacking, then you are, I think, unconsciously or subconsciously, excusing bad behavior from those white men where you become a racial prop. Hey Bran, Im calling because Uncle Ronnie died today. I dont remember the rest of it because an enormous wave of shock ran through my veins. Anyone who follows along on his journey and his life is able to tune in to watch him and enjoy, too, and that is what he is there for. Since Uncle Ronnie was my godfather and not my biological father, my choice was clear: Blood is thicker than water. His social media posts reveal that Brandon Kyle Goodman got married to his husband Matthew Raymond-Goodman in the year 2018. As a pleased, gay, person of color, Goodman has as of late developed as a resolute backer for the #BlackLivesMatter. Brandon Kyle Goodman's new book is called "You Gotta Be You: How To Embrace This Messy Life And Step Into Who You Really Are." Thank you so much for sharing this time with us, Brandon. And I don't think we say it enough. My mother was a solo artist and my grandmother was a minister, so trusting my legacy and trusting that I have what it takes to step up to the plate has been gratifying." . He is extensively known in the country for his project on #Black Lives Matter. There's this void that's missing. . I was trying to think about the first time I met my godfather, but that would be like asking me to remember the first time I met my mother. So there's this thing - right? I pivoted and a little bit and started to say, How can I talk about my experiences and what Ive been through and my Black queer identity and kind use that to inspire other people to live their authentic lives?. GOODMAN: That's a really beautiful question. My approach is to always say that there are two things that get to be true. And I was always kind of being told by, you know, classmates, by teachers, by - even at home to, like, butch up, to be more of a man - like, this - perform at masculinity, which is very confusing GOODMAN: To a 5-year-old. Just this morning, there was a tweet from the co-chair of the Michigan Republican Party where she called Pete Buttigieg a weak little girl. Do you find reading the news triggering and how do you react? But periodically his absence would feel unbearable. And now they're out with a new book that opens up about their own origin story and messy, messy life. A few months later on Nov. 1, 2013, to be exact I got a voice mail message from my mother. GOODMAN: Yeah, because it was - you know, I was latching on from a place of lack. The first notification to pop up was a voice mail message from Uncle Ronnie. He is not going to share the most intimate moments of his own life despite being so open with the world there are some things people just dont want to share with millions. I remember one of the creators of the show, Jennifer Flackett, saying the characters in my pilot reminded them of the Big Mouth kids as grown-ups., Latest project: Mr. Goodman just finished playing Walter again, this time on Human Resources, a spinoff of Big Mouth set in a workplace. Through humorous, honest, and autobiographical storytelling, Goodman explores his relationship to race, sexuality, gender, and their intersections. Both the film Pledge One and the television series Modern Love featured him in guest starring roles. He has written for the Netflix showBig Mouth. FamousBirthdays.com - use subject to the practices disclosed in our privacy policy. In my book, I talk about connection to ancestors and I have such a real deep connection to my ancestors, both in my lineage, but also to the James Baldwins of the world and the Audre Lordes and all these people who fought before there was social media, before there was this ability to easily access each other. I hadnt spoken to him in four years. In terms of the whole Big Mouth universe, I joined Big Mouth in season four. CHANG: That is the work. He only needs a one-bedroom apartment while in LA because he only lives with his husband. 598 posts. The weight of his body is around 165.34 lbs (75 kg). How do I perform being a man so that I can fit in and also, like, stay safe? (L to R) Brandon Kyle Goodman as Walter the Love Bug and Aidy Bryant as Emmy the Love Bug in Human Resources. He wants to bring attention to things that many people might not be aware of, or that they might not feel comfortable discussing. Writer + Actor; Author; Speaker; Educator; Activism; Messy Mondays And then, you know, when you start getting . I totally related to that. Just to be able to like name the experience and hold space for two truths, as I said, my source of my greatest inspiration and my greatest pain. She said, oh, well, if I ever see you in a movie, I'm going to point and say, he can't drive. Well, I'm just going to dive right in to the guts of this book because CHANG: You start from a really upfront place. And so you dated white guys in part for the proximity to white privilege. Written and performed by Goodman and co-directed by IAMA co-artistic director Stefanie Black and company member Devere Rogers, The Latrell Show is truly an experience. You can find him . We have Brandon Kyle Goodman, one the world's most modern day oracles talking TV with Ashley this week! Sign up for THR news straight to your inbox every day. Brandon, its your godfather. The Lesbian Writer and Her Flamboyant Gay Husband, Accepting Applications for a Black Boyfriend, She Wouldnt Break Her Heart to Mend Mine. So I was latching on GOODMAN: To this thing of, like, I'm missing something. Firstly, he has appeared in an online series People Just Do Nothing. Uncle Ronnie, however, always did. And I was always kind of being told by, you know, classmates, by teachers, by - even at home to, like, butch up, to be more of a man - like, this - perform at masculinity, which is very confusing GOODMAN: To a 5-year-old. I chose my mother and stopped reaching out to my godfather. Thanks for reading! I'm looking for another whole person, not somebody to complete me, somebody to add to what I'm already doing. I always say for my Black readers and Black queer readers, I hope that they feel less alone. Cindy Ulshafer Justin Ulshafer Katherine Ulshafer Micaela Ulshafer Michael Ulshafer Amanda Jones Amanda Taylor Ann Taylor Anne Walch Artesia Girgis Ben Taylor Benjamin Taylor David . You know, I think she, when I was very young, really instilled in me, what is your mission statement? That's the journey. I dont want to forget that and be like, Oh, Im here because Im Brandon. No, were here because of community. So I want to get to hold space for both of those things and both those experiences. Anyone can read what you share. What are the some of the main things that you hope readers will take away from the book? This has been amazing. He always stands for the truth. When I failed my driver's test, the proctor said, what do you do for a living? There is a lot of reverence around that and excitement around that around us dancing, singing, performing. He would take me to bougie restaurants in Manhattan so that Id be exposed to different cuisines and fine dining; hed take me to McDonalds because he knew, ultimately, that it was my favorite. I met with a couple publishing houses and I ended up with Legacy and my editor was like, Listen, there are going to be a lot of books about anti-racism coming out in the next couple years because of whats happening, but theres nothing about Black queerness. Don't stop. GOODMAN: That's a really beautiful question. This essay is part of a collaborative project with Black History, Continued. They grew up in a religious immigrant household, and they know all too well what it's like to hide, to hide the most meaningful parts of yourself. I really appreciate it. Nothing is black and white. And writing about that was all the things you think it is, sad and tragic and devastating and painful and healing and transformative. GOODMAN: Before we met, I did. He candidly shares defining moments (both good and bad) with family, friends, and lovers that influenced who hes become. As a Black nonbinary, queer person in a dark-skinned 6'1", 180-pound male body born into a religious immigrant household, Brandon knows the pain of having to hide one's true self, the work of learning to love that true self, and the freedom of finally being your true self. This is the gayest [expletive] I've ever heard. This has been amazing. You said, with white gay boys, there seemed to be an unspoken expectation that I would need to be a certain kind of gay to fit in. Matthew Raymond-Goodman is the husband of Brandon Kyle Goodman, an American actor, activist, and writer. Check out this great listen on Audible.com. He was also the only person that never questioned my effeminate nature. I think my life has been a lot of resilience and writing the book was about healing. If youre unfamiliar with this term, thats all right. They grew up in a religious immigrant household, and they know all too well what it's like to hide, to hide the most meaningful parts of yourself. I also get to knowledge that the experience I am having, because of how I look, because of how I present, is that of a Black man. I may have lost him, but Ill always be his son. Latrell was my coping mechanism. She collaborated with the NFL, CDC, and Heads Up Football Program in 2012 and 2013. I started the mentorship program in 2020 with the help of my bosses, Mark [Levin], Jen [Flackett], Andrew [Goldberg] and Nick [Kroll]. Cops raid home of estranged husband of murdered Illinois mother-of-three: 42-year-old was found dead of multiple gunshot wounds after she failed to pick up her sons from school Brandon Kyle Goodman TV Actor #107325 Most Popular Boost Birthday May 20, 1987 Birthplace Queens , NY Age 35 years old Birth Sign Taurus About Writer and actor who is best recognized for his role as Deco in the Netflix movie Feel the Beat. View career profiles, stats, photos and video highlights. As a nonbinary person, Goodman does not define himself as either gender. We may not have been blood, but I belonged to him before we ever met. Aside from this, he likewise follows a very much arranged eating routine to keep his body solid. Because the tone of a Times article should be thoughtful and restrained, we generally avoid publishing vulgarities. They grew up in a religious immigrant household, and they know all too well what it's like to hide, to hide the most meaningful parts of yourself. YOU ARE ENOUGH EXACTLY AS YOU ARE. And then you trick yourself into thinking that they are. GOODMAN: Yes, that's the work. . They grew up in a religious immigrant household, and they know all too well what it's like to hide, to hide the most meaningful parts of yourself. And you said that that - dating white guys for proximity to white privilege - it only fed into your self-hatred. The development has increased more than 20,000 adherents and including in the range of only a couple of days following an ongoing viral video message to his white friends viewing his experience as an individual of color (Black Men) in America. Relatives: Mother, father, sisters, brothers, spouses and/or former spouses of Kyle Ulshafer in La Verkin, UT. However, we do publish offensive language in exceptional cases, as when an important public figure uses such language in a public setting, or where the use of the words themselves is the story. He also serves the position of a motivational speaker and activist. 10 Things You Dont Know About Christi Paul. Brandon Kyle Goodman joins us now. Im really interested in telling that story and talking about that nuance. So thats where it began. Writer and actor who is best recognized for his role as Deco in the Netflix movieFeel the Beat. And it's like, no, baby, I'm a whole person. All rights reserved. His first acting role was on the television seriesNext Time on Lonny. His husband is Matthew Raymond-Goodman, and together they have a sweet pup Their dog is Korey, and they love that dog a lot. Goodman, who uses he/they pronouns, then worked to find ways to affirm their manhood after being labelled feminine as a boy, including by a family patriarch. The murder of George Floyd was shocking and changed all of us regardless of our racial identities. I think thereve been some shifts, but its still a lot of lip service. Hey, girl. 3,566 following. Were you inspired to write your book after starting your Messy Mondays Instagram Live show? Being a nonbinary gay Black person in Hollywood is an uphill battle he said. Can we just talk about dating white guys for a minute? And all anybody else has to do is respect it and thats it. I stopped on the sidewalk, my stomach growling but my voracious heartbeat drowning it out, and pressed play. GOODMAN: When Matthew and I met, I was already, like, fully in my love of Brandon. In the same year, he performed the role of Franklin in the show named The Relationtrip. I started playing this character about ten years ago, and his name is Latrell Jackson and hes a talk show host who has this New York, kind of Harlem, Im from Queens kind of way about him, Goodman said, adding, But hes extremely femme and extremely comfortable in his flamboyance and his Blackness and queerness, which in many ways was me in my twenties, trying to reckon with the intersections of my identity and finally finding the safe space on stage to do that, he says. Goodmans new book is part memoir, following the actor and writers journey toward fully embracing their many identities, which include beingBlack,queerandnon-binary. This meant enrolling himself in courses at New York Universitys Tisch School of the Arts, and it meant graduating back in 2009 with his degree. When I failed my driver's test, the proctor said, what do you do for a living? You know, I think the queer community in itself is also still reckoning with the racism and internalized homophobia that happens. Goodman is Black, queer, nonbinary. That was really scary and then also, I was like, Can I talk for 90 minutes and have it be interesting? My mother was a solo artist and my grandmother was a minister, so trusting my legacy and trusting that I have what it takes to step up to the plate has been gratifying.. I softened a bit, and she continued: I loved him because he was such a good man. CHANG: Being married to Matthew, how much have you evolved away from how you used to think about being with white men?